Paneer is a quiet win. It is a fresh acid-set cheese from which most of the whey — and therefore most of the lactose — has been drained, which makes it low in lactose and well tolerated at normal portions. Combined with the fact that ghee is pure butterfat and contains no lactose at all, the dairy side of Indian cooking is far more manageable than the dairy side of, say, Italian.
Raita is trickier, because it is built on yogurt. Greek yogurt is moderate and depends on portion, ordinary yogurt more so. Use a lactose-free plain yogurt or coconut yogurt with grated cucumber, cumin and mint and you have a raita that is safe at any sensible amount. A mango lassi is a double problem — mango is high in excess fructose and the yogurt adds lactose — so treat it as a dessert to reintroduce later, not an elimination-phase drink.
On starch, the answer is simple: eat rice. Plain basmati is FODMAP-free in any normal portion and is the most reliable base you have. Naan, roti, chapati and paratha are all wheat. Papadum is lentil flour but eaten in small, thin pieces, which keeps it low-FODMAP at about two. Dosa and idli are made from a fermented rice-and-urad-dal batter, and the long fermentation does reduce the FODMAP content — a single dosa is often tolerated, though a stack of them is pushing it. And skip the couscous if it turns up in a fusion menu: it is wheat semolina, not a grain.